Finding the Sweet Spot

Ahhh..the sweet spot. That heavenly feeling when you scratch that proverbial itch; when your hot drink is at the right sipping temperature; when a scent is sweet without cloying..you get the idea.

The sweet spot I’m talking about here, and with which I struggle to achieve is that of being a good mom AND a happy person at the same time.

The two should never be mutually exclusive. But there are so many physical, mental and emotional tolls that come with being a mother (I’m just beginning to get the taste of) – managing the household, ensuring the well-being and healthy development of your kid(s) in all aspects, taking care of yourself and other members of the family (such as the furry 4-legged ones), and, if you’re a working mama, holding down that job. All these different demands very easily corrode a woman’s personhood until all that fills the head is accomplishing tasks instead of simply living and enjoying your baby, your family and all the things that life has to offer. Personally, having a child was a much-deliberated decision, and it makes no sense to bring an innocent life into this world but then subjecting the kid to a childhood of a constantly haggard, angry and frustrated parent.

So this is a reminder for myself to not become so caught up with the toil of motherhood that I fail to enjoy the beauty of it. Yes, those chores need to be done, but our loved ones need us to be happy and well-adjusted even more. Compromise and seek help everywhere possible – if it doesn’t offend your moral sensibilities and spiritual principles, you can do without getting to them immediately, and/or insisting on things done your way. Hire help, get things delivered, turning a blind eye to that mess, eat sweet things. Put your own happiness as a priority and be conscious not to lose sight that life is meant to be enjoyed, not merely endured.